deal with it
that phrase is so commonly used, so easily said. how many times have you told someone ‘deal with it’, how many times have you been told, ‘deal with it’? as it so often is, this is another one of them sayings that can be categorized by yet another saying : easier said than done.
sure, it might be nice to actually and sincerely be able to ‘deal with it’ when shit happens, sometimes non-stop for a long time. but dealing with it, whatever it may be, requires a person to stop being reactive. to cease reacting to situations, to feelings, to people, atleast in an expected and typical way. there seems to be a certain set of reactions all humans seem to abide by. certain feelings that are bound to come up in certain situations, certain actions you might want to take that are bound to force their way into your head when faced with certain people. what if, one day, you could stop reacting the way in which you usually would? what if, one day, when someone yells at you, you dont yell back? what if, one day, when someone you trust hurts you, you dont cry? what if, one day, someone threatens something about your being and your existence, and you dont get angry or vengeful? what if, one day, someone you cant be without leaves you, and you dont beg them to stay? what if, one glorious day, you wake up to find yourself capable of dealing with anything, because you simply do not react the way your body and your instincts have trained you to?
so yeah, i’m trying. i’m trying to ‘deal with it’. tracy is back in malaysia, and i wont see her till december, and that for 10 days. i miss her. i miss her to bits. but i have to deal with it. mr. fabulous makes each day more difficult to face, because he keeps reminding me how close to perfect he is, but also that the day on which he leaves draws nearer. but i have to deal with it. i dont know what i want from life, or what i want at all. but i have to deal with it.
someone once said to me, ‘you need to be two things to get through life. strong, and yourself’. even if ‘being yourself’ means you take every situation possible, and turn it into something so dramatic, so blown out of proportion, so larger-than-life, so complicated and ultimately so painful, that you never know how to ‘deal with it’, (which is what life is like, being yourself, for me), you will find that that is exactly what life requires of you. to deal with it.
Could you expand on ‘close to perfect’ please?
Comment by Rishi — September 5, 2005 @ 8:59 pm
Dealing with it ain’t just about not reacting toward something. Dealing with it could mean the way in which you react to that particular situation. That’s why you are asked to deal with it, as oppose to stop reacting and forget it ever happened.
So if the Foosah is gonna come gobble you up one night, deal with it, cause there’s nothing much you are being able to do about it (indian accent).
Comment by Scourge — September 6, 2005 @ 4:09 am
DEAL WITH IT SCHMEAL WITH IT.. is this tracy jayasinghe ? uncle gerrys sweet youngling? aney if she is I here she is hot like a freshly baked chocolate cake… and her sister is also a darling.. ( well that is if it is her) .. tell her to bring me some yakult (milk drink) the next time she comes ok
Comment by Boycy — September 6, 2005 @ 4:33 am
how about, ‘no, i cannot expand on it’? :p
scourge : i think thats what i meant… what if we could stop reacting the way we are built to, and throw the usual sequence of things following our oh so predictable reactions off balance? what would happen then? btw, the foosah are being kept at bay. i’m too much like them for them to attack me.
boycy : yes of course, darling uncle gerry’s darling youngling. and yes, shehi is a sweetheart too. and yes, tracy is as hot as a whatever, so what you did hear (not HERE) was right. aney she is no longer here, what to do?
Comment by electra — September 6, 2005 @ 8:21 am
I’d like to know how YOu define ‘close to perfect men’. Something . . .anything will do.
Comment by Rishi — September 6, 2005 @ 9:59 am
well actually nothing i can do about it now.. maybe if you were to give me her email address…?? just to make sure she brings me yakult the next time… aney i’m a writer and i went to royal and i cant spell … so there …. am i also to take it that some ‘guy’ is leaving? where is he going? can u ask ‘him’ to bring me some chocolate chip cookies on hi way back?? thanks a bunch
Comment by Boycy — September 6, 2005 @ 10:20 am
Why are your google adsense showing backstreet boys tickets ads? Jeez..!
Can someone get BOYCY some food pls? That boy is getting thinner everytime I meet him. Right now he looks like he just got back from Africa…
Comment by Scourge — September 6, 2005 @ 11:42 am
take every situation possible, and turn it into something so dramatic, so blown out of proportion, so larger-than-life, so complicated and ultimately so painful… man what a life! imo.
what if we could stop reacting the way we are built to, and throw the usual sequence of things following our oh so predictable reactions off balance? what would happen then? well you become…..
‘why so hard?’ the charcoal once said to the diamond: ‘for are we not close relations?’ -nietzsche
Comment by sittingnut — September 6, 2005 @ 7:55 pm
scourge: google adsense bot/whatever probably goes by the ‘popular’ links on the left.
actually they all link to same post ?!
Comment by sittingnut — September 6, 2005 @ 8:03 pm
Electra- I heard that you are hot as ‘whatever’ too! Should I take it that my source is reliable?
Boycy- any comments?
Comment by Curious — September 6, 2005 @ 8:57 pm
rishi : i guess close to perfect would have to mean perfectly (or nearly perfectly) compatible to me, right? compatibility is what anyone looks for after all.
scourge : boycy sure as hell does NOT (i repeat, does NOT) look like he got back from africa, or even remotely thin. he looks as healthy as ever. but yes, someone does need to get him some food…and the guardian.
boycy : um…yes, of course, i will pass on the message about the cookies. and how about ‘no, you may not have tracy’s email address’?
curious : sorry to dissappoint you, but im not as hot as whatever, or even close. hence, your source is totally unreliable. i suggest you never take his/her word for anything ever again.
Comment by electra — September 7, 2005 @ 6:22 am
=)…..You were right Electra….Hilarious!!!;)
Comment by Tracy — September 7, 2005 @ 6:33 am
Hilarious ?? is Tracy making fun of my advances ? right right.. what to do.. Bishopians are all the same no (except Ashini and Tracy) .. at least Shehi was not mean to me.. ‘no, you may not have tracy’s email address? ‘ in that case make sure you remind her about the yakult ok … DONT FORGET
Comment by Boycy — September 7, 2005 @ 7:51 am
“curious : sorry to dissappoint you, but im not as hot as whatever, or even close. hence, your source is totally unreliable. i suggest you never take his/her word for anything ever again. “- Now why do I find that a bit difficult to believe huh?
Comment by Curious — September 7, 2005 @ 12:15 pm
boycy : yes, i do believe (under instruction from your’s truly, of course) she is making fun of your advances.
do not despair boycy, she’s much nicer without my evil influence. ashi, trace, shehi…am i seeing a pattern here? i wont forget.
curious : why? because, you are, unfortunately, delusional.
someone, tell him! (or her…could it be a her?)
Comment by electra — September 8, 2005 @ 5:12 am
Is this the shehi i once met somewhere? Boycy, 3 sisters? way-to-go man! you make me proud!
Curious: Electra ain’t that HOT.
Comment by Scourge — September 8, 2005 @ 2:39 pm
Curious: does it really matter so much???*nodding head in disbelief*
Comment by Rishi — September 8, 2005 @ 5:33 pm
Hope you’re happy electra
Lets start a separate blog and ogle the jayasinghe sisters (heeey trace can’t wait to c u ! )and ashi !
Comment by Iroms — September 8, 2005 @ 7:16 pm
can we put high res 300 dpi pictures of the three of them in bikinis on this ogling blog? I’d volunteer to take the pics…
Comment by Scourge — September 9, 2005 @ 5:19 am
scourge : no they ain’t ALL sisters. that would make uncle gerry’s and aunty carmen’s job as shehi’s and trace’s parents a lot more difficult! i think its bad enough as it is.
imagine that! what they do have in common though, is that they’re all absoloutely beautiful, and wonderful people. and thanks for the clarification of me not being that HOT. :p
iroms : *pulling put my hair* MEN, (boys?) i tell you!
rishi : tell me about it. it shouldn’t matter so much at all.
here’s to the new ogling blog… i have a few other names to throw in as well, if this is a blog displaying hotties…more ending with jayasinghe actually, iroms, if you know what i mean.
Comment by electra — September 9, 2005 @ 5:32 am
hurray scourge !!… that’s the best volunteer work you could ever do
(although i have no idea what these 3 look like, sounds quite promising..)
aye to a ’sri lankan hotties’ blog…
Comment by SpectralCentroid — September 9, 2005 @ 6:18 am
i never took the time to read any of ur entries even though tracy was a fan of them, i read this one just now…n to tell u the truth its amazing…i really mean it..
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